Intense Sadness is a Reflection of Love Lost

Yesterday I came online to horrible and unexpected news. A friend and supporter from Texas had suddenly turned ill and was in serious peril. Her young daughter who I had met on a recent trip there wrote to tell me that she was in intensive care, losing a lot of blood, and the prognosis wasn’t good.

At about 5:00 pm I posted a status asking for prayers.

The outpouring of support was immediate. Friends posted all over Facebook asking for prayers and support. A prayer vigil was held last night and I continue to receive messages asking about Terri. For those of you concerned about her, I still haven’t heard an update. I fear the worst but hold out hope.


Terri and I at dinner January 2012

I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting since yesterday, praying for the family, and hoping the doctors have been able to be part of something miraculous. In the midst of this I am thankful. Visiting her page on Facebook it is easy to see how many people she has touched.

I can’t help being reminded of a Spongebob episode where Plankton dupes him into being mean and then Spongebob saves the day by being aggressively nice. He runs around fixing kites, handing out hotdogs and candy, basically doing good deeds for people as fast as he can. This is Terri Krause to me. She truly cares about the people she meets and is always looking to help in any way she can.

Whenever I talk to Terri she tells me of the neighbor she is baking for or the author she is helping online, or the friend she is praying for. Mother Teresa encouraged us to “Do the little things” because people will line up to do the big things. In my mind it is the little things that bring us comfort in the end because they make us feel loved and cared for.

Today I’m unsure what will happen. My hope is tempered with sadness but underneath it all are joyful memories of her kindness.

My heart goes out to Annalise and Mark. I thank you both for sharing Terri with us.

************************April 24, about 3:00 PM EDT

Here is an update from Mark, Terri’s husband.

Terri is still in ICU. Sunday night and Monday were tough sledding for Terri. She just about died from rapid loss of blood following gastric varices rupture due to her liver condition. This came on suddenly because she has an edoscophy procedure in February which was OK.

Monday morning she had a “TIPPS” procedure done to put a shunt across her live to lower the blood pressure difference between top and bottom of the liver. This reduces the pressure on the veins in the stomach and hopefully will stop the bleeding. She was responsive for the first time this morning wound 10am. The first positive today. This was a big concern because her blood pressure dropped to 30/nothing and the veins they were putting fluid in started to collapse. For the next 48 hrs or so they will be trying to reduce the fluid they are putting into her and trying to stop the blood transfusion

Terri is at a crossroads now. if the bleeding stops in the next 12-24 hrs then she has the chanc to recover. If the bleeding cannot be stopped there are no other options.

I wanted to have my daughter here at the hospital but I found out last night that they are having the STAAR/TAKS tests this week so she has to take those tests while mom is in ICU.

Yesterday I thought we were going to loose her for sure. Today I am hopeful that she has a fighting chance

I would appreciate it if you would post this as I am Facebook less.

Thank you so much for all of your prayers and support. They do make a difference.

******** Update 4/25/12

Terri is still fighting in ICU.

Please keep her in your prayers.

******* Update 4/25/12  3:05 pm EDT

There has been little change in Terri’s condition. Blood counts have been stable for the last 6 hrs.  She is still on ventilator and dialysis. She is somewhat responsive and appears to be in constant pain.

Thank you everyone for your prayers.

******* Update 4/27/12 11:21 pm

It is with a very heavy heart that I post this final update from Mark.

Terri left us at 3pm today to be with God.  She never made any progress from Tuesday on.  I suppose I will be making arrangements tomorrow and will let you know.  Please pass on to CJ and to the rest of her friends on Facebook.  I am exhausted and not going to call anyone else until tomorrow.


Thank you everyone for your prayers up to this point. I ask you all to pray for Mark and Annalise. They need our support now more than ever.

*****  Arrangements for Terri (a message from her husband Mark)

I am sad to say that Terri left us for a better place where there is no pain on Friday April 27, 2012 at 3pm.  The doctors and nurses at St. Luke’s hospital here in Houston did an extraordinary job of giving her the chance for recovery.  It was just too much for her.

Visitation is on Friday May 4th from 6-8pm and the service is on Saturday May 5th at 1pm.  Details are on Earthman’s website  Look for Terri Krause on the right-hand side of the page.

I am sad to say that Terri left us for a better place where there is no pain on Friday April 27, 2012 at 3pm.  The doctors and nurses at St. Luke’s hospital here in Houston did an extraordinary job of giving her the chance for recovery.  It was just too much for her.

For the last couple of years as her physical mobility declined her activity on Facebook increased.  It is important that all her friends know.  I am sorry I cannot tell each one of them how much they enriched her life.




34 Comments on “Intense Sadness is a Reflection of Love Lost”

  1. I hope a miracle comes for your friend. Thinking of you in your time of sadness.

  2. Praying for your friend and her family. May God Bless them all.

  3. cindysamuel says:

    I was also going to contact you and ask if you had news. I am shocked and still sending positive energy and thoughts, for her and her family. I can’t help but remember how iintensely she and I worked together during the TEOMT mystery and the numerous text messages and emails we shared. ….trying to catch the bad guys! Very fond memories. Please pass on well wishes and updates CJ

    • cjwestkills says:

      I will CL.

      I too remember all the times we were getting ready for court in our own separate chat room. She met so many people during that game that all became good friends.

      I’m still waiting to hear and I will post on update on FB and on my blog when I know more.

  4. DeEtte Anderton says:

    I will be praying for her and her family, too.

  5. Mandy Richmond says:

    I don’t know Terri but my hopes and prayers go out to her and her familyxx

  6. Lil Gluckstern says:

    My thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family. She seems like such a kind person, and a good friend.

  7. Nancy Violette says:

    I met Terri via TEOMT and we have remained Facebook friends ever since. I have enjoyed her humor and appreciated the prayer warrior aspect of who she is. It is now our turn to pray for her. God’s blessing and healing Terri. You are in our hearts and prayers.

  8. pinkim95 says:

    I came here hoping to learn of hope…I did…I will be sure to share…and to hope that the power of prayer continues…

    You would think that the poor little girl could take the tests at another time…

  9. Debbie says:

    There is power in prayers!!! Sending up prayers for the whole family..

  10. sonia romero says:

    It is Wednesday, is there a new update, have been stalking her wall sick with worry, ty so much for your update, hugs and love for Terri

  11. Running from Hell with El says:

    Thinking about you and about the family, CJ. Hoping for a miracle.

  12. Janice Myers Turner says:

    I grew up in the same neighborhood as Terri and was with another friend this weekend and she had commented on our photo on Saturday night! So shocked to see the news and praying for her & the family

  13. Diana says:

    She’s still alive… That is the main thing!

  14. Paulette Didier says:

    Thank you so much. I have grown to love Terri over the past few years on facebook. Amazing how you learn so much about someone by how they share their love. She commented on a pic of my daughter, and we were joking around just hours before she got sick, and I’m still in shock. Praying so hard for her and her family, and thank you so much for the updates!!!

  15. s'alotta fagioli says:

    I am so happy to know that Terri is still hanging in there,I feel every hour she is,is a step to recovering.All my prayers are for her,and her family..Thanks for the update! ❤

  16. Debi Cunningham says:

    Have been keeping Teri and family in my thoughts and prayers. Hoping that she and her doctors get the miracle we all are praying for.

  17. Samantha Baker says:

    Thank you for using your blog for Terri, she is such a dear FB friend. My sister said that she likes to think of prayers as lights shining up to heaven. Can you imagine the power beam we are sending; gives me goose bumps to see all the outpouring of love! God is good and he will take care of Terri as she fights her way back to us! I believe in miracles and Terri would give God all the Glory for the recovery, she is such a special person. Bless you.

  18. BarryEdward Walker says:

    Terri and I have been facebook friends for a long time. We have stalked each others pages for funny posts to share prayed for people who were in need. She is truly an angel on this earth one of those people who love and care about people. You are loved by many many people my friend and our prayers will lift you up.

  19. pinkim95 says:

    I came here with the hope that there would be an update today…I am thinking that no news is good news?

  20. I will miss her. Terri’s sense of humor gave me a daily laugh. She was always quick with a joke and rarely complained. I knew she’d been ill, but had prayed for a miracle. I pray now for her family.

    • cjwestkills says:

      She was so sweet. I remember so many times she volunteered to help me out. She was always doing something for someone and her page always had the greatest jokes and posts.

      It is so sad especially for Annalise to lose her mom so young.

      • Norma Budden says:

        My youngest is 4 and I can’t imagine anything happening that would take me away from him. It would be bad enough for my 12 and 17 year old girls but, for my son – I just can’t imagine.

        I’m sorry for her family’s loss and for yours, as well. I’m sure Terri was a great friend and you will miss her deeply in the weeks and months ahead.

        May God richly bless everyone involved in such a time of need.

  21. Lil Gluckstern says:

    I am so very sorry to hear about this. My prayer go out to her family and many friends.

  22. BarryEdward Walker says:

    I am very saddened to hear this. Even tho I never got to see Terri face to face she was my facebook friend for years. Her jokes and posts brightened my day. It became a game between us to find funny posts that we both made a lot of and share them with our friends. She told me once if she could bring a smile or even a laugh to someone who needed it she had done her job and I feel the same way. I post a lot of random items some funny some irreverent but with no harm meant to anyone. I have at least 7 text files of the jokes that Terri posted over the years and even had to send some of them back to her when she lost them. My facebook link is With her husband Mike and her daughter Annalise permission I will make memorial posts of her jokes. I will miss her but i know she is now in a better place and watching over us all. RIP my good friend Terri.

  23. C.J., my heart goes out to you and to all the family.

  24. Melodee Roberts says:

    So very sorry to hear about Terri. My prayers are with you CJ, and your friends Mark and Annalise. God said her work here was done and it was time for her to go. Rejoice that she is with Him and you will see her again! God’s peace to all of you. ~M

  25. Jiji Agyao says:

    Im am touch with Teri’s story and how it ended. I will surely pray for her and her family. I also have notice that she pass away at. 3:00pm which is the holy hour of out Lord. At my church We call it the ” The Divine Mercy” because it was that time that Jesus died on the cross. Everyday each day across the world including our Pope, the 3:00 Divine Mercy Chaplet is recited and this I pray ” You died Jesus but the source of life flowed out for the souls and the ocean of mercy opened up for the whole world. Oh fountain of life immeasurable Divine Mercy covered the whole world and empty yourself out upon us. Oh blood and water which flowed out from the heart of Jesus as fountain of mercy for us, I trust in you. Holy God, Holy mighty one, have mercy on us and the whole world x3. Jesus, King of mercy,we trust in You……Our Father…., Hail Mary full of grace, the Lord is with you. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is thy fruit, of your womb Jesus. Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death, Amen. Glory be ………Amen. Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless & the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us & increase your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair and become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to your Holy Will which is love and mercy , AMEN”. For Teri, Mark and Annalise, yal be in our prayer list.

  26. Tami Todd says:

    Terri and I were childhood friends. I am shocked and saddened to hear of her passing. My thoughts and prayers are with her friends and family.

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